If you only read one thing here, read THIS

There’s Queer, and there is everybody else. If you don’t fit in with everybody else, and you come to the Queer community for support, you are coming home. Robert Frost says “Home is where when you go there, they have to take you in.”

We have to take you in. No one reaching out for support can be told they don’t deserve it. That they aren’t queer enough because they’re with a different-gender partner. That they are too queer because they embrace kink. That they are too fat, too masculine, too feminine, too androgenous, too asexual, not the right size shape color political affliation.

The entire basis of the queer community is this: people who are rejected from the mainstream due to their sexual/affectional orientation and/or gender presentation come together for mutual support. Fundamentally, that’s the bottom line. All of our activism, all of our political and educational efforts, all of our work for equality, is to serve the community of people that are cast out for being who we are. The activists that I know are not doing what they do in order to make their own lives easier, they do it to make everyone’s life better. And the day that everyone is accepted, the day that none are cast aside, fired, beaten, bullied, killed, forced to hide out of their fear and other’s disgust, why, that day we will all retire and move to Flagstaff and sip Ripple and watch the sun set over the YMCA.

It is our obligation to welcome with genuine warmth, love, and support any person who identifies as part of the QUILTBAG. It doesn’t matter if they neatly fit into a category, it doesn’t matter if their personal struggle is easier or harder than ours, it doesn’t matter if they want to live a quiet mainstream life or reject bourgeois normativity, it doesn’t matter if they are Out and Proud and marching in the streets or cowering in their kitchen huddled over a laptop with only the thinnest thread to anonymously connect them to a world they are terrified to admit they belong to.

We have to stand up for everyone, welcome everyone.

We have to.

I grew up in a time when it was much less acceptable to be queer. People older than I are often not even willing to accept the word because they remember the time before members of our community began to reclaim it as our own. I am amazed that I can even say the words “mainstream queer”. 30 years ago, that was an unthinkable concept.

But it’s not over. We have not won yet. We have to fight on.

And we must do everything we can to stick together, to make sure that everyone who is a part of our community is given the support they need.

One of the reasons that I am a bisexual activist rather than a more general queer activist is because I see every day people just like me being told they don’t belong. It doesn’t mean I don’t work on the basic issues that we all struggle against — homophobia, heterosexism, classism, out-of-control oligarchy, racism, misogyny, this list in in no particular order and is by no means comprehensive. But I have found that I can be most effective if I focus, work towards understanding the deep issues that drive the problems that affect people who identify the same way that I have ever since I started to understand who I am. I find that I’m not a community organizer type of activist or a storm the capitol with a petition in one hand and a bullhorn in the other activist — I’m much better at poring over studies and writing long wall-o’-text articles and occasionally presenting what I’ve gleaned to groups of students until my voice is so hoarse that I can barely do more than croak.

I don’t expect everyone to be an activist of any sort, to spend hours researching and writing and speaking and dancing down the street at the head of a hundred people spinning a rainbow flag in the air. But I challenge everyone in the queer community to stay conscious of the basic concept that we must, above all else, accept each other, take care of each other, care for each other.

From the post “We’re All In This Together”

I selected this post to be featured on my blog’s page at LGBT Blogs.

13 Responses to If you only read one thing here, read THIS

  1. Moon says:

    *applause*

  2. Geo says:

    Thank you, I needed this!

  3. judyt54 says:

    Ill march in any parade you lead, flipper, it’s that simple. bravo, bravo, bravo.

  4. *thunderous applause, standing ovation, throwing flowers, stamping feet*

  5. Ash says:

    This is beautiful, thank you.

  6. Thank you for your spirit and wonderful writing.

  7. I totally want your “Bust ALL the Myths” meme! I too am an activist, I do a lot of activism for the B and T of the LGBT. I am not trans, but have many friends who are and I see their struggles. Thank you for all your wonderful work!

    • fliponymous says:

      Thanks! I pretty much stole adapted it from an existing meme, so I won’t be the one to complain if you use it! I’m currently trying to create a new cover picture that captures “Angry Bisexual With A Keyboard” with the same kind of charm.

  8. mekachu~ says:

    id never heard the term QUILTBAG before – but thank you not only for this post and blog, but for introducing me to the new term – i quite like it!

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  11. Nienna says:

    Yes, way to go. Inclusivity and respect. Great post.

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