About

Howdy.  I’m Patrick RichardsFink.  Thanks for reading my blog.

I’m a grad student in my mid-40s, studying Community Psychology and Philosophy Community Counseling in order to get licensed as a therapist.  I’ve been bisexual as long as I’ve been aware of having a sexuality, but have only been out to the world for a couple years.  My partner, with whom I am in an exclusive monogamous relationship, has known since before we met. I am also on the end of the Autism Spectrum called Asperger’s (pre DSM-V).

If the preceding sentences cause you any confusion?  You’re reading the right blog.  If you are nodding your head and saying “Wow, I thought I was the only one”, again, you are in the right place.

Originally, I intended this blog as a place to talk about a variety of issues, but it’s pretty quickly gotten much more tightly focused. So the content is primarily bisexual issues, with a little bit about Asperger’s and the occasional one-off about stuff that has really gotten under my skin.  I also may have guest bloggers from time to time, and will gladly expand on discussions in the comments. I also blog at Huffington Post, but not as much as I do here as I find it hard to say anything in 1000 words or less, which is why my middle name on FaceBook is “tldr”.

I have collected the first 50,000 words or so of this blog (plus a couple of posts in other locations and otherwise unpublished articles) in an ebook available from Amazon. It’s on the sidebar. I’ve chosen to do this as a way to get a little monetary compensation without banner ads (which I find annoying, and which I would not have control over the content of, which is a serious issue for me). I will be adding a “chip in some expense money” button for people who enjoy my work, want to support, but don’t want to shell out more than a buck or two or prefer not to get involved with Amazon.

In May 2013 I was elected to the Board of Directors of BiNet USA. I’d like to specifically note here that when I am blogging on this site and on Huffington Post I am writing as me rather than as an official representative of BiNet USA. Unless specifically noted otherwise, all opinions, conclusions, rants, and raves are my opinion and should not be taken to represent the official position of BiNet USA.

Thanks for being here.  I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it.

26 Responses to About

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  2. Ian Wood says:

    Great stuff here, Patrick.

  3. david says:

    HI Patrick!

    Mid-40s here, bisexual, and married monogamously. And I thought I was the only one!

    Great stuff here – I’m glad I found you.

  4. susan1gb says:

    Am I glad to find you! Very interested in following your blog. Thank you.

    • fliponymous says:

      Glad you like it! I think I need to revise this page, as I’ve ended up focusing almost exclusively on bisexuality and queer theory and am writing nothing here on SF/horror or philosophy here… ;)

  5. Moon says:

    Hi, Patrick!
    I believe I read somewhere that you are in the Easter Washington (perhaps Spokane?) area. I’m actually in Coeur d’Alene and seem to be tripping over your work today. :) I’m a 50yo bi female and a senior currently seeking my Bachelors of Social Work here in North Idaho. (I am slated to begin my Masters work this summer.) We seem to share similar interests. Thank you for your blog and other written works. I look forward to more posts here and on HuffPo & wish you well.
    Di

  6. Moon says:

    AH, used to live there myself. :)

  7. Lynn says:

    Adding you to my blogroll (thebiwriter.com).

  8. So glad to meet you and thanks for your comments on my Bisexual Marriage article!

  9. Lone Ranger says:

    Do you have a contact email or something? Great intro btw.

  10. Evelyn says:

    love your site! For the original drawing for the “bust all the myths” meme, please credit the brilliant Hyperbole and a Half blogger, Allie. She’s incredible!

  11. talacarson says:

    I’ve recently come out as bisexual and I’m proud of who I am. I can safely say bisexuality does exist. But I’m unhappily surprised at the fact many people put it in question. Thank you for honesty! :) It spirits lots of people up!

  12. Paul Fitzgerald says:

    “No Labels No Community” piece on Huff Post was off the charts fantastic — well done. Realize I’ve read your stuff before, huge fan and thanks for the great work you are doing. Wondering if you might be in touch with me via the email I’ll input for this post — I’ve got a project I’m working on and would be interested in speaking with you about it. Best to you…

  13. Clancy in IN says:

    I found your blog through Huffington Post. I am a 45 year old gay man in a relationship (16 years and counting). I am not a Kinsey 6, although I am more strongly attracted to me. I want to say that I have only read a few posts, but they are wonderful. I think we need to raise the visibility for bisexual people not only for your sakes, but to remind everyone that we should not be judged for our attractions, at a given time, regardless of what we say/do later. Keep up the good work and I will do my part to let people know that no one should be judged or marginalized for whom they love.

  14. Clancy in IN says:

    I agree. If we want to be part of the QUILTBAG, we need to accept everyone in the “bag”.

  15. Hi Patrick,

    I’m an undergraduate psychology researcher at the University of Saskatchewan in Canada. I and two of my co-horts are currently designing a study looking at prejudice against bi-sexual men (from both hetero and homo sexual men) and are looking to utilize prejudice reduction techniques. For part of our experiment we are hoping to use an autobiographical excerpt from a bi-sexual man to see if that may help buffer prejudicial attitudes. I’m wondering if you would be interested in writing a short excerpt for us detailing your life as a bi-sexual man? It doesn’t have to be long we are just looking for something that may put male bi-sexuality into perspective for our participants. I will of course supply you with more information if you are interested and if not thanks anyways! Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s nice to see some male bi-sexual voices on the internet.

    Thanks!
    Ashleigh C.

    • fliponymous says:

      I would certainly entertain the notion, but I really have to insist that you use the correct terminology — it is “bisexual”, not “bi-sexual”.

      Please check the email you provided and we can discuss what you need from me and what I would like to see from you :)

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